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Ditto with my kids shampoo and bubble bath. From what you described she just wrinkles up her nose and is not having an allergy problem. Thats really interesting. The readers have some great ideas. Shes done more than is reasonable. I actually have a diminished sense of smell but patchouli is one scent that penetrates my nose. I'm the only one with a direct view. You might have to visit both specialists to land on the correct diagnosis. But Im not going to ask another person to never drink that tea again. I think it would be pretty unreasonable for someone whos bothered by it to insist that, for instance, a coworker stop treating their psoriasis appropriately just because of the smell of their shampoo. When my problem first started, I steadfastly blamed the people around me for being inconsiderate and expected them to fix it. If you have a colleague who burps or sniffs excessively, the easiest approach is to tell her you find it offensive or unsanitary and, in the case of loud burping, do not consider it humorous. My heart rate goes up, my brain scatters, I get queasy and headache-y, etc. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. But that doesnt seem to be what the OP is dealing with just now, so she may need to change from the reasonable adult playbook to the dealing with a bully playbook. Concerns are shared. First of all, if there REALLY is a smell, even a very faint one, that shes making a big deal about it, you have shown her that you are and have dealt with it and now the matter is settled. (Ive had a lot of practice). If the sound or smell persists after you've kindly spoken with your colleague, you have two options, says Rossi. Usually trying to clear the flood and congestion by blowing my nose is like trying to slam a logjam through the eye of a needle. I used to use cloth menstrual pads and wash them in the shower with soap, and to this day I cant quite tell the smell of menstrual blood apart from the smell of Ivory soap. Im sure she thinks that the scent is gone I have no doubt about her sincerity and Im also pretty sure Id be able to tell on the Monday if shed worn patchouli that weekend. Totally agreed, Im fine with not wearing perfume to work, and not using smelly lotions, and I could totally be on board with unscented detergent, but Im not going to change my shampoo or my body wash or stop taking bubble baths when Im outside of work. Also, sniffing is very commonly associated with allergies. Agreed. Several people wrote in to say that . It was rather sad! Hes little and sneaks off and pees in low-traffic corners so its easy to miss. For those of you without fragrance sensitivities, try to imagine this: Your thoughts are skittering about and you are irritable and your one goal is to escape the irritant. Perhaps she does as well and is associating them with you? I never smelled when she needed a ride anywhere or we werent in the office. it also helps with static electricity AND acts as a fabric softener and is much cheaper than store bought fabric softener. Diors Dune was once likened to the smell of mannequins, so maybe she can pull a Kim Cattrall on this co-worker and camouflage herself as a store dummy. I think this will be one that everyone will want a follow up on. It could be that every time you move the chair or the decorative pillow or whatever other object that may have been infused with scent, that it unleashes a little puff of scent. They offered her a new seat not situated in the middle of the office. However, completely overhauling my beauty product inventory to find something thats scent free AND works for me (so that I dont show up to work in my naturally oily, sweaty, smelly state) would be a huge burden. Spray a lot and youll probably go, Nooooooo! because Tom Ford is absolutely a 1-1.5 spritz perfume (I say that as someone who ownsat least five TF fragrances) and if youre into Sephora there are rumblings of a VIBR/VIB/BI sale coming up starting the 18th. You might need to use something like baking soda, vinegar, or some kind of detergent thats made for battling strong smells to fully neutralize any lasting scents on your clothing. Ive had this happen with arm rests and scented lotions. 10 Worst Cities for Spring Allergies. This requires a somewhat herculean effort of open windows, incense, scented candles, oil burners, and oil diffusers, plus regular cleaning of the litter box with high quality litter. Yes, when I pour some vinegar into the washer there is no vinegar smell when the wash is done. Otherwise, Alisons advice is spot on. I really feel for you. My sniffing started about 4 years ago. Never again! Also I get that OP is bending over backwards completely to try to be scent free, but honestly, even scent free soaps are not. Many people have year-round reactions to indoor allergens such as mold, dust mites or animal dander. I saw Gordon Ramsay once tell a team member of a struggling restaurant that he had bad breath. lol Im inclined to think shes just a jerk. I much prefer it to sniffling. I dont use scented stuff, I bake if I want the house to smell nice., And I finally sat her down and said Hey Coworker, I want you to know that I dont dislike your perfume/lotion/candle scent ( although I did dislike them) I just have a strong, physical reaction, and when its pollen season, or mold season, Im extra sensitive and really cant handle any of those products in the air.. My heart rate goes up, my brain scatters, I get queasy and headache-y, etc. When a guy opens up to you, he has feelings for you. Maybe if I just put the lotion in my nose. Thank you! Other sniffle-inducers include growths and anatomical issues, such as: Chronic sinus infections. Allow your puppy little sniff breaks along the walk to decompress from walking alongside you in Heel and get their fill of scents. Ugh, bathroom sprays. :(, Why is Alison mentioning lemon scented body wash? Im not allowed to wear headphones at work, but occasionally when the boss is out I sneakily put some on anyway and I can hear her sniffling even with white noise, pink noise, and any kind of music at full blast. She . Any chance it could be a shampoo/conditioner/other hair product? Its very distracting, and personally I find it disgusting. Her coworkers shouldnt be expected to so drastically alter their personal habits and small joys during non-work hours. Even though a difficult or annoying coworker can really grind your gears, you should always control your emotions and refrain from losing your temper. I am on a small anti-anxiety med now and it has made a difference. Consider having a friend/family member (who doesnt live with you!) Oh no! Yes Tom Ford has a fragrance called White Patchouli that I refer to as my rich hippie perfume. Im almost positive the perfume and the indie oil scents are one and the same a lot of places sell perfume oils rather than spray perfume, but generally one would just refer to them all as perfume. All the time. Let me tell you, African women, French women and certain Asian women wear perfume when they are out in public. I think OP has already made a strong effort to accommodate her coworkers sensitivity, and I get a whiff (heh) that the situation is not even about that anymore. Policy. But since I had a bad cold about 2 month ago, I am doing it all the time, even though my nose isn't running or blocked. YES! But we shake it off, and the office culture is such that a person complaining about that sort of thing would be told to suck it up unless it presents a health concern. Eat something and get sick and your body remembers at a very basic level. If someone else wants to wear it, thats their prerogative. But I need you to stop the constant comments about me., 3. Are the other coworkers having this issue with the coworker too? Even when I blow my nose a lot it doesn't help sometimes. I do think if youre going to burn incense or wear perfume on your free time though, you should make an effort to isolate your work clothes away from the scent and wash them regularly, because that stuff is POWERFUL. Your nose can react to irritants that arent known allergens, Dr. Reisman says. I definitely see making a reasonable effort to make sure you are not having a negative impact on the people in your work space. Although if someone (politely) asked me to use a different detergent because it was making them ill, I probably would. We embarked on a months-long quest to find soaps and laundry soap that he liked and that I could tolerate, but you know hes my significant other! If the co-worker keeps complaining, Id see if maybe someone else in the office can do a smell check to see if anyone else notices and can back you up if theres a complaint that day. Problem is, no one around you sees the flames or senses the heat, so they have no sense of urgency to bolt for the doors. Theyre going to keep pushing and pushing until either they 100% get their way, or the person accommodating them says no, Ive done enough for you, thats all your getting., For the record, I love the phrase go pound sand. Ive always had it and its bananas impossible to explain to anyone without coming off as a jerk when Id suddenly fume or snap a pencil under the table or run away from the dinner table. I recommend that you febreeze everything in your office if you have carpet or upholstery. For a while I was attending a conference that made that request. MedHelp is not a medical or healthcare provider and your use of this Site does not create a doctor / patient relationship. .true story, I made my partner change laundry detergents after wed been together a few months. Is your nose running a marathon? Sure, the smell bothered me and sometimes I had to go take a walk to the water cooler to clear my head, but we were doing everything possible to mitigate the scent in the office so I just had to suck it up and deal with it and I would never dream of asking my boss to change his lifestyle to accommodate me. Not liking or hating a scent is not a good enough reason to ask someone to make huge routine changes at home. I personally hate perfumes of any kind, and I know people who get migraines from them. Oh, dear, thats true. Patchouli is a very specific smell, Im sure youd know if you were using it. Whether or not the coworker has a sensitivity, her behavior is way inappropriate. (LW, you have been so funny in the comments) We go out to eat Mexican food at least once a week, and each time I remind him at least once to chew his chips with his mouth closed. Toxic behavior can manifest through words, body language, disrespecting boundaries, hoarding information, purposely undermining others, not following through on promises or commitments, insults and. Unless you saw an allergist or ENT doctor, you might never know you have it., With such a long list of possible causes, how do you get to the bottom of your runny-nose problems? If your clothes are synthetic, that could be the culprit. A bacon and Stilton jacket potato sounds amazing, though. 8 Tips on How to Deal With Difficult People at Work. Agreed. The office could have other environmental factors that are actually causing coworkers issues- like dirt in carpets or something. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Not only that, but it can also be a sign that your female coworker likes you but is hiding it. You can couch it as youd think itd be a good idea of someone checked up on him (and gently let him know that the noise is carrying). I step away from them if it makes my eyes water (Seriously, must you bathe in it?? The air is fine. Until I got sick after drinking too much of it (and not eating enough) at an awkward dinner party. Ive tried to explain to my coworker that basically nothing I use is scented anymore, but she makes exaggerated sniffing noises and says things like, Oh, patchouli AGAIN? when I get near her. At this point, it seems to me that her behavior is/is verging on (whichever seems most appropriate to you) workplace bullying, and I am concerned. Then see what Boss says, and go from there. OP, I think you can let yourself off the hook at this point. I cant think of anything else that I can do. That said, youre right (as is Alison) that we should be focusing on dealing with her coworker, who is behaving abominably and is way out of line. Oh, like I can use neutragena sensitive skin moisturizer and I can use neutragena sensitive skin sunscreen, but if I use neutragena sensitive skin moisturizer with sunscreen, I break out in a horrible painful rash. I just get so anxious about it that I smell phantom pee. Where a light scented spray of perfume or body mist or even deodorant will fade away throughout the day, patchouli oil is there forever. I have no advice OP, just commiseration. I completely agree. Your lemony scented hair will seem like a relief, https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000OCEWGW/ref=psdc_166034011_t1_B000GKXYZ2, Oh this is way better! She makes the most awful noise. But even if this is the case, the co-worker is not handling it in an appropriate way, and OP shouldnt have to put up with Mean Girls style bullying about it. OP has done a lot already and coworker is just being snarky. I also had the thought that the coworker is trying to pick on OP with the smelly hippie stereotype. Making an employee constantly feel that they are the problem, shaming them for no real wrongdoing, or making them feel inadequate and unworthy. Occasionally I feel like I can smell the soap my first boyfriend used, and it still makes me feel on edge (the relationship was, unfortunately, abusive). Time for bending over backwards is past here. Its possible that its lingering in a way that you dont realize. I would scrub down after work and still smell like that garlic butter sauce we put on breadsticks and cheesy bread. I'm actively looking for a new position elsewhere. If a colleague burps frequently after drinking soda, suggest that she consume a non-carbonated beverage. Agree. Been over 10 years now. I wish this was more helpful to the OP. The brain is, if youll pardon the expression, at the heart of a lot of this. Yet every time shes near me she complains about the fragrances she says Im wearing. I love shoe sniffing stories, especially when it involves hot girls with stinky shoes. ;). oh I get it I know that people either love or loathe it. Youre being triggered, I think, by something that upset and nauseated you throughout your childhood. It looks like you just have someone who just doesnt like your scent. I agree with you that the OP has already done a lot and the coworker is being snarky. Bring the complainer to her house to show that there are no more scented products? Before I purchased the humidifier I googled it & found other was somy house won't be so dry. Well, OP seems to think they have entirely addressed the problem by stopping wearing scents and washing in unscented detergent, and so when they try to assess the situation they are incorrectly starting from a belief that they dont/cant actually smell. Ive also been wearing my oils since I started, and she only just complained about it a month ago. Someone I was around complained about my patchouli smell. If someone was spraying any form of Febreeze, *I* would go to the Manager. Its super easy to become immune to a constant smell. My friend worked a really hellish retail job one Christmas. I stopped wearing it to work when you asked me to. or just Nope, not me. and then either ignore the co-worker or go on talking about the TPS reports or whatever. Haha, Im not sure if this is a good idea, but I love it. I believe it also has been done with similar results for people of color. Blamed the people around me for being inconsiderate and expected them to fix it triggered I. 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